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I can’t do it…

I can’t do it.

How often do you catch yourself saying you can’t do something? We’re all guilty of it at one point or another. Whether we’re tired, feeling lazy, uninspired or disconnected, we often use ‘I can’t’ statements as a crutch.

To reach the goals many of us have, we need to shift our language and our habits. Social psychologists have learned over the years that even seemingly subtle differences in language can have powerful affects on our thoughts, feelings and behavior. As much as I believe in will power, we can’t always will ourselves through every struggle. We need to change our language. By replacing phrases like ‘I can’t ‘ with choice phrases like ‘I don’t’ we are empowering ourselves as apposed to limiting ourselves. Researchers conducted a study comparing I can’t and I don’t. On the way out of the lab, participants were offered a granola bar or chocolate bar as a thank you. Who chose the granola bar? Sixty-four percent of those who said I don’t, compared to only thirty-nine percent of those who said I can’t.

Another study was conducted using female participants working towards health and fitness goals. They were encouraged to use I can’t and I don’t phrasing when they were tempted to lapse. By the study’s end, 8 of the 10 women using the I don’t strategy were still using it successfully, while only 1 of the 10 who used I can’t lasted that long.

The nice thing about shifting your language is it’s an easy choice. When you catch yourself thinking or saying I can’t replace it with I don’t. Oh I can’t eat that cake…. now sounds like, I don’t eat cake. You have the power of choice. You have the power to harness your inner badass, take control and make the choice 🙂 Another way to shift your language is by removing phrases like ‘I will’ or ‘I’ll try’ or ‘Id like to’. Just fucking do it. making a claim for right now. Not tomorrow. Not in the new year, now. Albert Ellis explains that the language we use to describe our experiences or circumstance impact the way you embrace them. If you look at past situations and can see how this may be true, wouldnt you want to smother yourself with positivity?

The next time you notice you’re limiting yourself, think of adjusting your language and take control of the outcome. 💕💕

“the harmony between thought and reality can be found in the grammar of the language.”

– Ludwig Wittgenstein

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5 things you didn’t know about me…

Hey everyone!

There have been quite a few new people added to my Facebook page and Instagram and I couldn’t be happier about that!
I decided I would take this time to quickly tell you a few facts about me you might not know! 🙂

1. I am a creature of habit and routine. I find myself the most productive on days where I follow the same routine. For me this is mostly morning and bed time…every afternoon is a little different but my morning routine consists of coffee and my self love practices; fitness, yoga/meditation and personal development.

2. I meditate! I used to practice meditation daily for sleep, I had mastered a 3 breath sleep routine. Somewhere along the way I lost the practice, BUT it’s back. Whether I meditate for 5 minutes or 20, I love this space to connect with my body and Source energy.

3. I am an introverted homebody by nature. I spend all day LOVING all the seconds I get to connect, share and explore with others. I wasn’t always this way. I grew up very shy and introverted and through self love, and support…I have embraced the loud, bubbling side you all know now! I dance, I sing, and don’t give a fuck. It’s a life of freedom. It was a long journey of introvert to extrovert and I’m so happy about where I am now. That being said I still love to unplug and hide inside and snuggle my husband and pets sometimes 🙂

4. I work with kids! I don’t share this often, but I have an amazing opportunity with my local community schools running their after school sports program! This program and these kids have taught me SO much already, I can’t wait to see what the rest of the school year holds for us.

5. I have never been successful at headstands. It’s a real bummer…they hurt my head haha apparently I don’t have a flat part on my dome…can someone teach me?! 😂 This has always been a goal of mine…unfortunately never a successful one. Handstands maybe.